How far will you go to be noticed?
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How far will you go to be noticed? What wouldn't you do to have him see you? As a writer, I want to keep my posts balanced. It's not always the men sometimes females, cut up just like this. In the video you watched, the lioness demonstrates what psychologists call melodramatic personality or (histrionic personality disorder). The exaggeration in her behavior shows how some females try hard to get the attention, affection, admiration, protection, and acceptance from a male. Are you surprised to know this behavior is a personality disorder? We are designed to want attention, but the measures we take can prove whether we are rational or irrational in our behaviors.
The female lioness breaks rank and leaves her competition to take a direct approach at the male lion. Did you notice that the male lion was a perfect gentleman? But, the lioness was acting wild and untamed? She couldn't keep still while he remained well mannered in his disposition. She threw herself at him as he remained unbothered and almost bored with her theatrics. Her performance closed with the unimpressed male lion yawning. No standing ovation, no encore performance, just wasted time and energy. Do you think the lioness behavior was appropriate? I have to laugh because I can almost hear someone in a high pitched tone saying, "I don't see nothin' wrong with it. I think it was cute." While we are all entitled to our own opinions, there is a need to address the behaviors we have considered normal for so many years. Now let's go a little deeper. All personality disorders form out of patterns.
"Histrionic personality disorder (HPD) is defined by the American Psychiatric Association as a personality disorder characterized by a pattern of excessive attention-seeking behaviors, usually beginning in early adulthood, including inappropriate seduction and an excessive need for approval." Wikipedia Encyclopedia.
Growing up, I was told young ladies behave a certain way. So what way was that? It is the degrading way that classifies females as hot, fast, loose, whorish, slut, tramp girls. Whew, did I name them all?
Or maybe my daughter's generation prefers Megan Thee Stallion: "Imma Savage; classy, bougie, ratchet~ sassy, moody, nasty~ acting stupid what's happening? Bi-bleep-bleep-bleep, Imma savage."
How these explicit lyrics managed to become a' TicTok' sensation all around the world only proves society has embraced and accepted personality disorders as the norm. Think about it. How can a woman be classy and ratchet while acting stupid? Emotions, flip-flopping around just like the female lioness. Going from one extreme to the next in a matter of seconds is equivalent to living life on a roller coaster. It is the sign of a lost image, pained by the need for approval. These are the behaviors we don't talk about, yet they are popularized and admitted into our culture. Personality disorders are patterns of excessive behaviors that create constant disruptions in our relationships. Similar to the same theatrics or drama we get from watching "Reality TV." We are plagued into believing this is how the world is supposed to be. "Women are hypersexualized in the media consistently, ingraining thoughts that the only way women are to get attention is by exploiting themselves, and when seductiveness isn't enough, theatricals are the next step in achieving attention." Wikipedia encyclopedia. (Caption by SWAMP Evolution).
"Then he said, I am the Lord your God, and I cure your diseases. If you obey me by doing right and by following my laws and teachings, I won't punish you with the diseases I sent on the Egyptians." Exodus 15:26, CEV.
I looked at how the male lion sat like a king upon his throne, watching the lioness roll around on the ground. He quickly looked away with disinterest. Although the male lion was possibly entertained by the female lioness's extreme behavior, he was not aroused enough to give her what she desired. She was in heat, wanting to mate, needing approval, but using seduction to get it. The male lion didn't have to do much to get her goodies. She was wagging her tail, doing her best tricks, hoping it was enough to get him to take what she was offering. A desperate woman is unattractive. Especially from a human perspective.
If he doesn't call you, will you chase after him?
If he doesn't ask you out, will you hunt him down for a date?
If he doesn't look your way, will you go out of yours prancing and twerking your body around to get his attention?
Is it safe to say, It all boils down to whether you are trying to be with a man who is not trying to be with you?
Even if you answered no, you know someone who has. In an unprecedented way, I was responsible for upholding my standard with men. People kept telling me to "wait for a husband?" Unfortunately, I began to exploit myself. In my book, Emotionally Unstable, I talk about the promiscuous lifestyle that nearly destroyed me. Just because you go to church doesn't mean the junk in you disappears. And when you come to Christ, you still need to be processed through sanctification. We naturally develop and inherit many characteristics that lay dormant until they get triggered. My Wrong Luv triggered something in me. It hurt to know it was there. I could not overlook the fact that he was honest and told me the truth, "you seduced me." "It's okay, He said. How could he believe being seduced was fine?" My inner conviction made me correct my behavior. He got frustrated with me. He wanted the girl that seduced him back.
Everything changed when I stopped being seductive, and he was not happy. Our fight put a dagger in my heart. He told me something I dreaded to hear. "I need a break." Silence sat on the phone, as I asked very softly, are you breaking up with me?" He replied, "No! I...just need time to think." When a man asks for a break, he's trying to decide about you and the relationship. He needs time to clear his head, and that requires being alone. My emotions began to somersault while his thoughts were off-center. What did he mean a break? I didn't want to take a break. How could I make my point without yelling, screaming, shouting, and hollering to get what I wanted?
My need to rant, rage, and throw a fit was at the tip of the iceberg. It was a miracle. When I opened my mouth, I hesitantly answered, "okay." He stopped calling, texting, and emailing me. I felt abandoned but knew I had to respect his request. I could tell the tables had turned. Something deep inside wanted me to chase for his approval. Sadness gripped me, as I remembered, the promise I made to my self. "I'll never chase or run after a man." I wanted to make things work between us but knew I had to take my last bit of dignity, pick up my face, and walk alone. A man can smell a desperate woman a mile away. She carries a certain kind of scent men find unattractive. If you pay close attention, you can see the male lion sniff the female lioness and reject what he smells. Rejection is painful when you are desperate for approval. I finally found what a young lady looks like, from the One I least expected.
"I, the Lord God, had helped you become a lovely young woman." Ezekiel 6:14, CEV.
LA~ Truth Tips
Even if a man sleeps with a woman, she is of no more value than a prostitute, unless she is his wife.
Our approval should come from God before it comes from man.
Your identity should never be based upon a dramatic performance.
Our behaviors show us the areas we need growth and healing.
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References:
Contemporary English Version. (1995). Ezekiel, 6:6-14; Exodus 15:26. BibleGateway.com www.biblegateway.com/versions/Contemporary-English-Version-CEV-Bible/#booklist
SWAMP Evolution. What Are the Symptoms of Histrionic Personality Disorder? https://www.instagram.com/p/B5IQDL3gUp9/?igshid=91sp7bifcqjb
Wikipedia contributors. (2020, May 25). Histrionic personality disorder. In Wikipedia, The Free Encyclopedia. Retrieved 15:26, May 27, 2020, from https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Histrionic_personality_disorder&oldid=958810802
Youtube. Hippo Creek Safaris. Hillarious! Lioness attempting to lure uninterested male lion to mate. https://youtu.be/fG-aVBWhi1Q
Original Work, La Cherie Armour LA~TRuth Brand, 2020.
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